HOW I WORK
In my work with you I will try to understand your world - and help you to understand it too.
As we talk, I will get to know you and help you get to know and understand yourself a bit better.
As you develop greater self-awareness, you will start to understand more about how you respond to others and how you relate to yourself.
Through therapy, you will be given a different experience of relationship and you will be able to find out how you can have better relationships, including an improved relationship with yourself.
It is thought that trauma and impingement in infancy and early childhood can cause parts of ourselves to separate off and that these parts will remain out of conscious awareness, whilst still influencing how we are in the world. The act of talking about emotional issues - even traumatic ones, can allow us to process the feelings around them and thus become more integrated - this is the goal of therapy.
I understand that it can be hard to talk about issues that are distressing. That is why I will make sure you are ready and that you can feel safe sharing your thoughts and feelings.
By remaining a compassionate and empathetic presence in the face of difficult emotions, I allow you to experience yourself as whole - and at the same time, more separate, helping you to develop good boundaries and the ability to tolerate others' emotions as well as your own.
As part of the process of therapy, I will help you improve your self-knowledge and your ability to manage anxiety and other more challenging emotions. This is particularly important for those with Complex trauma, people who have BPD and those who are self-harming.
I understand the challenges of therapy and the fears that we all have around becoming vulnerable and revealing our vulnerabilities to others. I will prioritise building trust to help you to feel comfortable in opening up the space of reflection and emotional exploration. I will also support you in becoming temporarily dependant on the therapeutic relationship - something that is necessary if the therapy is to work. So I will encourage you to look after yourself and to manage the breaks between sessions, even though, at times, separation may cause distress. As you develop these self-soothing and self-awareness skills you will need therapy - and your therapist, less and less.
And so my aim, and the aim of most therapists is to make themselves redundant - slowly!
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The Nitty Gritty
These are all qualities that can be nurtured through psychotherapy and counselling.
THERAPY HELPS PEOPLE
have better relationships
gain better self-awareness
manage emotions and stress
learn resilience and increase resourcefulness
improve social skills and develop clearer communication
develop better coping mechanisms
develop positive attitudes and self-assurance
create a clearer sense of values, life ambitions and long term goals